Fireproof

Never Leave Your Partner Behind

A lovely couple from our local church put on a special Candlelight Dinner followed by the movie Fireproof.

A great inspiration for the married couples in our church, with a strong gospel message.

At the same time our latest Challenge newspaper had an article entitled:

Avoid The Top Reason For Marriage Failure

"It has been my experience that the number one reason behind the collapse of marriage is plain, old fashioned selfishness...

Marriage is not so much about finding the right person as it is about being the right person...

As simple as that statement is, it has enormous consequences for you if you decide to put it into practice because it forces you to stop focusing on yourself and to begin focusing on the other person, which is the essence of true love...
I find this kind of wisdom about relationships in the Bible, especially the Proverbs.

Here are just two for you to think about:

"An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who shames him is as rottenness in his bones."

Excellent here refers to a virtuous woman - a woman of tremendous class and quality. A woman who is proud of her husband; one who shows him respect and is unashamed to do so. Such a woman has the highest place in a man's life - she crowns it! But a woman who openly despises her husband and is constantly critical of him and his decisions is like an infectious disease. Simply put, a woman can make or break her man. If she is going to "make"him, then she will need to be unselfish.

And husbands are also told "to rejoice in the wife of your youth".

In other words, instead of moaning and complaining about what she does and does not do, remember why you married her in the first place and keep on encouraging those good things in her today. How easy it is for us men to forget all the good things about our wives and only focus on the negatives that we see.

If we want to change our relationship for the better then we must stop focusing on ourselves and begin asking ourselves how we can better serve our partner - this is called unselfishness and it has the power to transform both you and the other person."

(Rob Furlong, from Challenge newspaper, edition 315)